# 1. A Chip On Your Shoulder About Changing The World - Awesome Benefit of Waiting Till Marriage

# 1. A Chip On Your Shoulder About Changing The World

Every kid wants to grow up and be a hero. Some kids even want to change the world. As they get older, most people lose this youthful idealism, and focus on just living as well as possible in the world.

When you wait until marriage to have sex, you preserve some of your innocence — there’s a whole world of experience that you can still look forward to — and as a result you carry more of your idealism into your adult life. When you take that extra idealism — that heroic vision for who you can be and what you can achieve — and combine it with your grown-up ability to execute and comprehend, you  can do truly great things (if you don’t let the voices of convention talk you into giving up first).

But there’s a catch: This desire to do great things with your life — your ravishing hunger for depth   and meaning — is a burden as much as it is a blessing. You will carry it around with you at all times,   like a chip on your shoulder. It will make you unhappy fast if you’re not doing something fulfilling. It will tear you down. It will tell you that you should be better…that you should be more. And the only way to make that voice leave you alone is to give it what it wants: go out there and do it; change your own little piece of the world, and that little voice will cheer you on.